So I get this random itch to find where cool queer women chill. Not for dating, just curiosity. Figured apps were the way to go. Grabbed my phone and dove in blind, no clue what I was doing.
Started searching the app store using terms like “lesbian” and “queer women meet.” Wow, tons popped up. Looked shiny and promising.
First App Trial:
- Downloaded one with a rainbow logo. Seemed legit.
- Profile setup was like pulling teeth. “Define your sexuality?” options were messy. Picked something vague.
- Scrolled profiles. Felt weirdly like window shopping? Got some matches. Ghosted mostly. Shit was awkward.
Second Try (Different App):
- This one focused on local events. Lists were outdated! Saw an event happening… that night? Rushed over.
- Turns out, it was a small book club. Intimate group, maybe 6 people. Felt like an intruder. Smiled awkwardly, pretended my phone rang, bolted. Major fail.
The “Ah-Ha” Moment:
- Kept at it for a week. Paid for premium on one. Big mistake.
- Realized the vibe was mostly off. Either felt like a deserted island or too intense. Got one message: “You seem lost, dude.” Ouch. Truth bomb.
- Got ghosted mid-convo multiple times. Profiles faded like ghosts.
Giving Up Phase:
- Felt tired and kinda dumb. Deleted every single app one night. Hit “uninstall” like it owed me money.
- Closed my laptop. Walked away.
My Big Lesson? Apps might work for some, but man, felt like trying to force a puzzle piece. Real connection? Not happening there for me. The actual cool spots? Probably not listed loud on an app. Learned my lesson: sometimes you just gotta organically find your people, respectfully. This whole thing? Mostly useless experience.