Hey guys, let’s dive right into today’s practice log. Always been kinda curious about this whole ladies kissing ladies thing, you know? Not just a quick peck, but like… the real deal. So I figured, why not try learning it myself? Buckled down for a weekend to see what I could pick up.
Starting Out: Total Confusion
Honestly? Felt completely awkward at first. Standing in front of my bathroom mirror, trying to mimic what I’d kinda sorta seen somewhere. Lips pressed together hard, super stiff. It looked ridiculous and felt even worse. More like trying to eat the mirror than kiss it. Got frustrated real quick.
Finding Some Guidance
Hit up the usual spots searching for beginner tips – nothing crazy detailed, just the basics. Most stuff boiled down to needing another person, but hey, mirror practice it is for now. Found those “5 simple steps” everyone talks about and decided to break ’em down one by one.
The Actual Practice Session
Gave myself a pep talk – “Alright, let’s pretend the mirror is another person.” Sounds silly, but you gotta start somewhere! Here’s what went down, step-by-step:
- Step 1: Chill Out & Get Close: Told myself to relax my shoulders. Took a deep breath. Leaned in slowly towards the mirror surface. Like, really focused on moving in gradual, not jerky.
- Step 2: Eye Contact (Kind Of): Tried to keep looking at my own reflection’s eyes as I got closer. Weirdly intense staring contest with myself! But it helped shift the focus from just lips.
- Step 3: The First Touch: Aimed for my reflection’s lips to touch mine? Okay, mirror on my lips. First few tries were too forceful. Pulled back, went slower next time. Landed it softer – barely a press. That subtle pressure felt way better.
- Step 4: Hold & Release: This part felt super awkward practicing alone. Held the gentle lip-to-mirror touch for like… three seconds? Felt like an eternity staring into my own eyes. Then slowly leaned back, breaking the “contact”. Overdid the slowness, felt dramatic.
- Step 5: The Repeat (The Weirdest Bit): Did it again. And again. Maybe ten times? Each time, tried focusing on making that initial touch softer and pulling back smoother. The repetition helped shed some of the stiffness. Still felt goofy though.
What Actually Worked (And What Didn’t)
So, biggest win? The whole “chill out and move slow” thing. Made the biggest difference for not smashing my face against cold glass. Getting softer on the lip press was key too – felt less like an attack.
Biggest fail? Trying the “eye contact” thing for real. Super distracting practicing solo! Kept getting stuck in my own head, thinking “Do I really look this focused?” Also, the slow pull-away felt exaggerated alone. Probably feels more natural with an actual person’s rhythm.
Practiced for maybe half an hour total. Ended it feeling less awkward than when I started, but also realizing how much real practice with an actual other person matters. Mirror can teach the mechanics of gentle approach/retreat and soft touch, but the connection part? Nope. That’s gotta come later.
Final Beginner Realization
Bottom line for complete newbies like me? Mirror work forces you to SLOW DOWN and be gentle, which seems crucial. Didn’t magically master kissing, obviously. But it took me from frantic lip smashing to understanding the need for subtlety and calm movement. Worth the time for that alone. Still got miles to go!