Alright, folks, let’s get real about this tall girl dating thing. Saw some nonsense online saying tall women struggle finding love, total crap honestly. Decided to put my own spin on it and share what actually worked for me.
First, Shut Down the Noise
Started with ditching all those weird ‘rules’. You know the ones: ‘Don’t wear heels,’ ‘Only date guys taller than you,’ blah blah. Went straight into my closet, pulled out my favourite pair of killer heels – the red ones, seriously high – and wore them absolutely everywhere. Grocery store? Heels. Coffee run? Heels. Screw making myself smaller.
Actually Putting Myself Out There
Okay, so confession time. Got kinda lazy before, mostly relying on apps. Swore off just swiping for a month. Instead, literally forced myself to go places where stuff actually happens:
- Hit up specific events: Signed up for a hiking group focused on young professionals. Met way more people face-to-face that way.
- Actually talked to strangers: Yeah, awkward at first. Started small, just complimenting someone’s jacket at a bookstore event, or asking a guy his opinion on which craft beer was better at that brewery meetup. Sounds silly, but it got the ball rolling.
- Tried one new hobby class: Picked pottery, felt like a clumsy giant at first, dropped clay everywhere. Laughed about it with the guy sitting next to me. We’re grabbing coffee next week.
Confidence is Messy (And That’s Fine)
Had this terrible date a few weeks back. Dude kept mentioning my height, like “Wow, you’re really tall,” every five minutes. Felt myself shrinking inside, old habits creeping back. Then stopped myself mid-sentence. Looked him dead in the eye and said, “Yep, I am tall. Got a problem with that?” He stumbled, I finished my drink, paid my share, and bounced. Felt freaking powerful walking out.
What’s Actually Sticking
Been doing this for about four months now, here’s the real deal:
- Stopped apologizing for existing: No more hunching, no more slouching, no more “Sorry I’m so big.” Just owning my space. People notice, and honestly? They respect it.
- Tall doesn’t intimidate the right guys: Current guy I’m seeing? Totally average height. Saw me in my damn boots, didn’t blink. Just said “You look awesome,” and we talked normally. Normal! It felt great.
- Forgot the height obsession: Seriously stopped asking myself “Is he tall enough?” Started asking “Do I like talking to him? Does he make me laugh? Is he kind?” Game changer. Focusing on connection, not measuring tape crap.
Messed Up My Own Head First
Biggest hurdle wasn’t the guys, it was me. Spent years telling myself being tall was ugly, feeling awkward, listening to society’s garbage. Had to unpack all that BS. When that stupid ex told me I’d be “perfect if you were just shorter?” Fuck him, man. Used that anger to fuel working on loving my body. Took time, still some days suck, but I genuinely like how I look now. That inner shift? It bleeds out. People sense it.
So, forget the “tips” from people who don’t get it. Stand up straight, wear what you want, get out there and actually do things, talk to humans, and ditch the losers fast. The good ones? They’re looking for you, height and all.