Many people are concerned about how long their sex life lasts. Generally speaking, most people’s sex life lasts between 5 and 15 minutes, with the average being around 7 minutes. If it can last more than 10 minutes, that is a very good state.
However, you can’t always go for “the longer the better”. If you don’t ejaculate for more than 30 minutes at a time, you should consider the possibility of “non-ejaculation”. If you can’t control your ejaculation within 3 minutes of the start of your sex life, and you feel very disturbed, affecting your mood and self-confidence, then you should pay attention to the fact that this may be a manifestation of premature ejaculation.
1: It’s important to calm your mind and relax your emotions
The psychological state is very important in sexual life. Some people are especially prone to premature ejaculation because they are nervous, afraid of making a fool of themselves, or always worried about poor performance. In fact, all of these negative emotions can affect your body’s response and make things worse.
So learning to relax and adjust your mindset is the first step to prolonging your sex life.
How do you do it?
Have confidence in yourself
Don’t feel like you can’t just because you haven’t performed well once or twice. You can always give yourself some positive mental cues by telling yourself, “I can control the pace” and “I can keep the other person satisfied.
Don’t worry about time
A lot of people start out thinking, “I’m going to last longer this time,” but the more I think about it, the more nervous I get, and it’s over even faster. In fact, sex life is a matter of two people, the process of communication and feeling is more important than the length of time.
Communicate more, don’t keep it inside
If you have any concerns or discomfort, it is best to talk to your partner. When two people understand and support each other, the atmosphere will naturally be more relaxed. Especially when one partner is nervous, the other’s reassurance and comfort is especially important, so it’s easier to get into the mood.
2: Adopt a healthy lifestyle for a stronger body
In addition to psychological adaptations, the state of your body’s health also has a direct impact on the performance of your sex life. A lot of people are usually busy, stressful, irregular work and rest, all these will make the sexual ability affected. So if you want to improve your sexual performance, you should pay attention to some habits in your daily life.
1. Get enough sleep, don’t stay up all night.
Staying up all night not only makes you feel tired during the day, but also disrupts your body’s hormone secretion, which can affect your sex drive and sexual function over time. Therefore, try to get 7~8 hours of sleep every day and rest regularly, which is very helpful for your body’s recovery.
2. Eat healthy and keep up with nutrition
Eat more foods that are helpful for male reproductive health, such as
Seafood (e.g. oysters, shrimp)
Rich in zinc, which helps with sperm production.
Nuts (e.g. walnuts, cashews)
Rich in vitamin E, which can help boost energy and sexual performance.
Green leafy vegetables
Contain a variety of micronutrients that can help keep your body in shape.
Eat less junk food that is high in fat and sugar. These foods may taste good, but they will affect blood flow and hormone levels, which will have a negative impact on sexual performance in the long run.
3. Exercise more to improve your physical fitness
Exercise can improve the vitality of the whole person and also make your body more powerful during sex. In particular, the following exercises are especially helpful for sexual performance:
Running, swimming, cycling (aerobic exercise)
Can improve cardiovascular function and make you last longer during sex.
Squats, push-ups, core exercises (part of strength training)
Strengthens muscles, improves endurance, and also helps blood flow more smoothly, which is good for improving sexual performance.
You don’t have to train to be as strong as a gym instructor, but if you continue to train 3-4 times a week for 30 minutes at a time, you will see noticeable changes.
3: Don’t make these little mistakes before sex
Some seemingly harmless little habits will actually set you back in your sex life. For example:
Drinking before sex: Although alcohol may make you feel relaxed at first, it will actually affect your sexual ability, but it can also make your response slower and even affect your erection.
Starting right after eating: Having sex right after eating, the body’s blood is still concentrated in the digestive system, which affects the blood flow to the lower body, and performance is naturally unsatisfactory.
Long-term sedentary: Especially office workers, sedentary will oppress the pelvic area, time is prone to prostate problems, will also affect the quality of sex life.
Conclusion:
If you want to prolong your sex life, it’s not just a matter of skill, but a combination of psychology, body and lifestyle.
Relax your mind and don’t be too nervous;
Sleep well, eat well, the body will have strength;
Exercise more, you will not only be healthier, but also more confident;
Communicate more with your partner to create a relaxed and happy atmosphere;
Avoid bad habits and change behaviors that are not good for your body.
As long as you stick to these good habits, I believe you will soon be able to perform better during sex.